Why is it a good thing that an increasing number of men are seeking therapy?

When I first started out as a counsellor my first client was a man, followed by a series of women. I recall questioning my capabilities at that time; however, my research indicated that women were more likely to pursue counselling. Historically, men have often been marginalised in conversations about mental health.

 However, significant change has occurred over recent years. One notable turning point was the COVID-19 pandemic. Factors such as working from home, being furloughed, or experiencing redundancy, contributed to more men beginning to engage in discussions about their mental well-being. The growing number of men seeking therapy is a positive development, as it fosters improved mental and emotional health by providing a safe environment to explore challenges, develop coping strategies, and enhance relationships. This increased acceptance helps to challenge traditional stigmas that associate seeking help with weakness, thereby promoting healthier lifestyles and improved personal performance across various aspects of life.

I have observed several reasons why men are now more inclined to seek a safe space:

 • Relationship issues 

• Grief (loss of a person or significant element) 

• Life transitions and changes 

• Addiction concerns (not limited to alcohol or drugs; can include activities such as excessive exercise) 

• Depression, anxiety, and other mental health conditions 

• Low self-esteem and confidence 

• Stress management 

• Work-related difficulties 

• PTSD 

• OCD 

• Bipolar disorder

 Often, these concerns coexist; there may be no single identified issue. Sometimes, one challenge can trigger another, and without awareness of our thoughts and feelings, these triggers may go unnoticed.

In the past, men often refrained from openly admitting they were struggling, yet they deserve the same opportunity to heal from any of these issues - or others not mentioned - as does anyone else.

 Today, I am pleased to experience that men, young and older, are more willing to seek therapy independently, not always being directed by family members. They are increasingly open to discussing their difficulties and acknowledge that their attitudes towards therapy have evolved over recent years.

 It is encouraging to witness this positive trend. The therapy environment I provide offers a valuable space for everyone, young adults, women and men for self-discovery, reflection, and the rebuilding of self-esteem and self-respect, or simply gaining a deeper understanding of oneself in a meaningful way.