Strategies for Christmas Holiday period
Christmas can be a tricky time for many of us, whether we are feeling lonely, grieving, stressed, overwhelmed, worried we have not done enough, or simply find the whole festive season quite challenging. We often press ourselves with impossible standards, our minds swirling with self-criticism and the relentless images from social media of perfect dinners, impeccable decorations, and seamless traditions. It is as if we are caught in a storm of ‘shoulds’- how we ought to cook, how we must wrap, how we need to be joyful and grateful.
So, take a moment, pause, and breathe. Christmas is not a race; it is not a set of rules or a competition. Christmas is simply whatever you need it to be. There is no right or wrong in what you feel, what you do, or what you choose to let go of.
This morning, I stumbled upon a quote that truly touched me: “Christmas is most truly Christmas when we celebrate it by giving the light of love to those who need it most.” It really resonated with me a bought a sense of calm. I realised I had been racing through endless to-do lists, deadlines, and worries about not doing enough. Instead of listening to that harsh voice of doubt, telling me I am falling short or that nothing will be perfect, I chose to listen to my inner experiencer, the part of me that knows how simple acts of love and kindness matter most.
Whatever I do for my family this Christmas my family will love it - my gravy might not be as good as Jamie Oliver’s, or my desserts not as polished as Mary Berry’s, but the meals will be cherished because they were made with love. Because we are together. Because we will laugh, share moments, and create memories that truly matter. Our presence and joy are the greatest gifts of all.
Make your Christmas for you. Not what others expect, just for you.
As I’ve been working with my clients in their final sessions before the New Year, we’ve shared tools to carry into the break - ways to keep themselves safe, to be gentle with their expectations, and to recognise the importance of pausing when overwhelm gets too much. If loneliness or recent changes, like a loss, are affecting you, know that Christmas can bring those feelings to the surface. Allow yourself to sit with these emotions, do not fight them. Reach out to friends if you want to talk, or look at some ‘glimmers,’ below which I recommend to clients. Small, shining sparks of peace and kindness that can bring us back to ourselves. Some ideas include:
- Savouring a quiet cup of tea or coffee in a moment of stillness
- Feeling the warmth of a hug from someone you care about
- Making a quick call to a friend just to say hello
- Taking a walk, whether long or short, and feeling the world around you
- Letting the breeze brush your face and remind you of nature’s gentle touch
- Listening to a favourite song that lifts your spirits
- Preparing and enjoying a comforting, home-cooked meal
- Celebrating even tiny achievements that remind us that we are capable and alive
These glimmers - brief moments of connection and calm - are powerful. They influence our nervous system and bolster our emotional resilience. When life’s triggers threaten to overwhelm us, recognising and embracing these small sparks can guide us back into a space of calmness, safety, and hope.
So, I urge you to look out for these moments. Do not forget to smile. Honour your feelings. And be kind to yourself.
Wishing everyone a peaceful Christmas. Take care of yourselves and stay safe. Sending my very best wishes for 2026!
