Changing my mindset

I'm a counsellor, so my days are all about walking with clients, hearing their stories, and supporting them on their journey. A few months ago, I joined an online training group about networking, as I was curious to see what was being discussed. 

What I wasn’t prepared for was how it would make me feel. Suddenly, I was thinking I wasn’t working hard enough to find new clients. I’ve usually just gone with word-of-mouth, my website, and my profile on the BACP. Now I was told I need to network more, get visible on social media, and connect with other professionals. Honestly, that made me cringe. It felt like I was just bragging about myself. 

But over the past few months, I’ve been trying, really trying, not to feel like I’m selling myself because that’s not who I am. Instead, I’ve been reminding people what I do and asking clients to recommend me. It wasn’t always easy or comfortable, but I put myself out there. Now I see I’ve got to keep that up - stay connected, post reels on Instagram, advertise on Facebook, and actually give out my leaflets instead of letting them sit on the table gathering dust. 

This made me think about how I was raised no bragging, no big-headedness, don’t celebrate your wins too much so you don’t make others feel bad. But hang on, I tell my family, friends, and clients to share their successes because it’s powerful, especially for making changes. It boosts our motivation, reminds us that we are good enough, and it certainly can bring joy and connection. It’s also great for growing a positive mindset and having the courage to change. 

Basically, I don’t always get it right - my reels can be a bit cheesy, and I hesitate before handing out leaflets. But I do it anyway. I’m promoting growth, and every time someone says, “I liked your story,” it motivates me. It makes me feel proud and good about myself. 

So, if something’s holding you back, try stepping out of your comfort zone. Good luck!